The Value of Others: Understanding the Economic Model of Relationships to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sexual Marketplace

I have been following Dr. Orion Taraban for a while now. His advice on dating and relationships is always solid, since it is based on psychology and human nature. Many of the ideas in this book can be found in his different YouTube videos. However, they are greatly expanded upon here. One of the greatest pieces of advice that he gives in this book is to have your different needs taken care of through different people - in other words, don't rely on one person to satisfy all your relationship needs, because they will not be able to do so.

This book is perfect, extremely informative and helpful. Very digestible with proper and detailed uses of analogies. I’m very grateful for Dr. Orion for putting this together and I’m excited to read the next one.

A Tour de Force. The best book of its kind on the decline of the forces leading to and supporting marriage. The book looks at the changing dynamics of heterosexual attraction and mating describing in understandable terms how changes in how gender needs can be realized have endangered perhaps irreparably the institution of marriage

One of the best readings in my life so far. I'm entering my 30s, and all my romantic relationships have been so far a disaster, I desperately need a changeThis book is brilliant, so well structured and smooth to follow, it goes from concept to concept beautifully. Personally I found so powerful the analogy of the captain of the boat and the passenger. Now I'm actively building myself to be a better captain.I strongly recommend this manual for both men and women. Thank you soo much Dr. Taraban!

Great book thus far. Up until page 20 the first paragraph has almost a whole line with no spacing.Will update review if I notice anymore.

Orion is articulate and a great communicator. He has a deep understanding of the current state of the sexual marketplace and presents optimistic guidance for the future

First of all, a big heartfelt appreciation to Dr. Orion! Keep up the good work.And truly, "you'll never look at relationships the same way again".An absolute treasure of a book. Possibly destined to become a "classic" and a foundation on which modern relationship thinking will be based upon.Note that I have read over the years other books on relationships, but too many of them are frustratingly full of unhelpful and useless platitudes. Or at best very tangential or limited in scope. This book is something else... a compendium if you like.If you read a single book on relationships, then this book is a must.* * * * *Update:I've been thinking about the last few pages of the book, where the author talks about "more and more [people] will attempt to secure these components piecemeal in multiple, nonmarital relationships".This may very well be the case (Dr. Orion's arguments are solid), but I still feel the book concludes (and generally is permeated throughout) with an excessively liberal and "humanistic" outlook.While the trend in relationships does point in that direction (with "freer" relationship strategies and arrangements), frankly it's not a panacea. On paper many ideas are logical and beautiful; but the reality can be something else. A libertarian utopia? A potentially very dangerous proposition - given human nature.Personally, I'm leaning more towards a red pill philosophy ("the juice not being worth the squeeze") as the way forward, for the sake of peace and sanity (of self and others). Of course, not ideal, but best possible solution given the alternatives? Put otherwise, the available sexual relationship menus (in any social configuration/rearrangement) are just overpriced and with too much upside risk. Food for thought.Anyhow, book remains a solid and best-in-class read.

Dr. Taraban's channel, PsycHacks, has been a treasure trove for me for the last six months I believe, since I found him.I've been an avid observer of the redpill community since 2017. The Rational Male from Rollo Tomassi, the most recent books of Aaron Clarey, Myron, Rich Cooper, the brilliant videos from Gonzalo Lira (RIP), etc. I've watched and read them all. Those are excellent, but I've never encountered this angle before. Economics alone, from what is taught usually, wouldn't get us here.I was glad to find, as I was reading the book, that the author is familiar with the theories from the Austrian School of Economics, a school that hasn't been so known for the general public for the simple reason that it doesn't make good economic advisors to politicians that like to feel they can control the economy. This is part of the reason this angle is so refreshing.From this angle I could finally feel relieved from the bleak picture the current landscape of relationships give. Just the same that for someone ignorant of Austrian Economics the current economic strife of the developed world could seem mysterious. Basically the problem in both is this: a mismatch between our currency value, and the things we want to buy. In global economies the problem is fiat currencies which have been used by democracies and modern states to inflate their own power through the acquisition of real value at the price things had before the injection of new currency, buying with currency created out of thin air. In relationships though, it's people who are simultaneously the parasitical "state" and the slave of the rat-race.The inner parasitical state would be our clenching to outmoded ways of procuring value for the sake of those ways and their false but presumed virtue, and our inner slave would be our sexual and emotional needs who are slaving away without achieving freedom nor satisfaction.The insights Dr. Taraban shares in this book are extremely valuable. They have assuaged my anxiety and given me a path forward in my quest for healthy relationships, just like the books I've read about investing and budgeting have straightened out my economic path. And certainly I'm not alone in the need of clarity in either of these endeavors.If you give this book a try, I can bet against you that at the end of it you will not believe so many spots of the landscape where so dark and mysterious, even terrifying, before you grabbed it. Your surprise, like mine, will be the product of a methodical, logical and gentle dissertation that will make you feel that you'd gotten it figured out from a long while already.Of course, we couldn't have done it. Accept the bet and lose, you'll be happy you did.