Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship

Some of the stuff is a bit outdated, but there is a lot of good info here. My friend recommended it to me. Glad I got my hands on it. Gave me some new dating tools to use on heterosexual males. lol!

Hands down one of the best relationship books I’ve ever read! I could not put it down and will certainly be reading it again! Sharing with all of my single friends!

More than a contrived "how to" manual, Mars and Venus on a Date offers an anthropological reasoning for why women and men differ in approaches to, and goals for relationships. Ladies, your Grandma and Mommy told you to hold off giving sex to guys but author Gray tells you why - really, neuroscientifically. Men don't get any lessons from this book, but they wouldn't be reading it anyway because they are all just off looking for renewable arm candy. Men don't really want relationships with women, but alpha status among other males, gained through showing off sexual prowess, according to the author.It was readable in small chunks, which is all the time folks have for reading these days, pleasant, not preachy and understandable. It was better than books like "The Code," which seem to offer only tricks on how women can get men by suppressing themselves. Sadly, there were no new ideas on where to meet members of the opposite sex who want permanent relationships...not just sex.I enjoyed the read, got a few new points of view, but quickly forgot most of the filler. Most of the value seems to be in explaining to women why they should let men earn their attentiveness and not be too eager to give their bodies away.

truthfully I had given up on figuring what to do to make a relationship work with a man *I am straightand into hetero. it's not that the men were wrong necessarily, it was my way of understanding what todo. we all grow up watching sitcoms or our parents and that wasn't working for me. I was a total people pleaser and was always on the "losing end" of things. I prayed. *I know this is unpopular with most people nowadays but for me, God works and I asked for guidance as I was at the end of my rope. two women in one week *years ago, talked to me about this book and neither one of them knew the other so I knew it was my sign. I got the book. I honestly did not want to read it. why? because I guess I was afraid and so negative about getting started again in trying to have a relationship. I FORCED myself ultimately 3 months later *not kidding, being honest here, to read at least 3 chapters. I was astounded. I was literally shocked. I honestly had the thought, "wow, if this is how it can work, then, I'm in!" and so began my new life dating and "doing things right". this may all be "TMI" *too much information, for some but for those who have no idea what to do, this book helped me enormously. ENORMOUSLY. why? because my parents were not role models, sorry to say, no woman in my family line was ever happy and the men were all suffering from low self esteem, and so on. what this book did for me was allow me to see that "it was the way that I was getting into relationships that wasn't working". we need to return to what works and this book actually did it. I can't tell you how many marriage proposals I got after applying what I learned here. now......it is not easy if you have some "habits" and you may have to sit on your hands to follow thru on what to do, but it's no game, there are no "rules" that are dishonest, it's merely placing femininity and value back on ourselves *(I'm a biological REAL woman) and allowing men to deal with that, in a more traditional way. I LIKE being a woman but all I saw modeled around me was divorce or "living together" or ways that weren't working. I DO highly recommend this book but not every woman will be able to do it if she is not ready and sincere about changing her own behaviors. crazy, right? well, for me, I finally learned and it really does begin with the value we place on ourselves and then to understand that men really are different and it's okay. they are not "girlfriends" they are husbands and life mates. I get to be a feminine woman again because of my rewiring and I do owe it to God directing me to this book. may not be for everyone, but 10 stars from me. *apologies for the lengthy post.

I don't normally write reviews but I had to express how much this book changed my life. I have dated wonderful people and am currently with a wonderful man now in a great relationship and we have these seemingly little problems that seem to cause great stress. They don't seem like deal breakers but we are unable to move forward into the 5th stage of engagement.My partner and I believed these differences to be personality or character differences and were starting to feel like we really weren't meant to be together but it was so conflicting with how much we loved each other, were compatible with each other, and the fact that we had all 4 chemistries together and felt like soul mates.Then I read this book and EVERY, and I do mean every, single problem we had been struggling with was written right there, in black and white, verbatim some of the things we've said to each other. And I began to learn that our differences were not personality or character differences at all, but gender differences. Now, armed with the understanding that these gender differences are universal, we no longer need to take these issues personally. It's so true that when men & women misunderstand each other, misinterpret each other's actions, & miscommunicate their feelings, they are unable to successfully nurture each other & get what they need. The result is resentment. When resentment builds, our different interests become more extreme. We begin to polarize.My boyfriend and I are both really honest with each other but like John Gray says, "no matter how sincere you are, if your partner is misinterpreting your innocent & automatic reactions and responses, your attempts to create a relationship may be unsuccessful. It is not enough merely to be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider you will be interpreted as well. For this reason there are times when we cannot just "be ourselves." Instead, we must hold back our initial gut reactions & measure our responses in ways that will communicate where we are coming from."I want to thank John Gray for his insight and for writing this book because like he says "When our relationships make sense to us, we don't make as many mistakes; we are also able to learn from mistakes and are thus released from making the same mistakes again and again. We can then be released from repeating negative patterns."Even if you are with the right person, you cannot "just know" if you do not first create the right conditions to open your heart to someone.Loved, loved, loved this book. Yes, it was extremely repetitive, but sometimes people need things repeated to them over and over again in order to GET it.

I AM OBSESSED! - John Gray may just be the prefect author because this book is great. The depth, the consideration from both sides. he really does allow you to understand how different we are but also how amazing we could be together.I am such a huge fan and would recommend this book to everyone

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Tiene buenos tópicos pero no me encanto al 100%La presentación y el libro fue entregado en perfectas condiciones y antes de tiempo 🙈

Da claves muy interesantes sobre las relaciones entre hombres y mujeres. Cuales son las diferencias a la hora de relacionarnos en pareja. Cuales son las fases de las relaciones de pareja y por qué son importantes cada una de ellas. Y qué debe haber entre dos personas para que la relación tenga futuro

Must read for all women out there. We are trapped in our old DNA and behave the way we do. Men are still men, even tough we became modern.. and women read these books to understand them. It worked.