Dangerous Normal People: Understanding Casanova Psychopaths and the Narcissistic Virus Paperback – September 17, 2019

Let me start out with this; I read the author's answer given to a Narcissism-related question on Quora. Not being a member myself and thus only being able to read and not comment, I was intrigued by the answer and inspected further. Not even knowing wether this person was a man or woman, they suggested a book (not promoting it) for people looking to get more insight on Narcissism. That book title had me even further invested. "Dangerous normal people"?! Genius title! I found it here and ordered it right away eager to read.And then.....With a knack for psychology, my curious mind went a little deeper on the author. And to my shock I've found so many horrible accusations and 1 star reviews which then made me want to run back to Amazon and cancel! But knowing a thing or two about Narcissism, I decided to investigate those reviews first. Finding out that they had nothing to do with the book and the accusations are extremely over exaggerated, actually giving MORE credibility to the author. I know this is a little lengthy but I wanted to make sure that if you're interested in the book, to give it a try. (don't be a flying monkey)I'm really glad I gave it a try, and here is my honest review:Although a little amateurishly written at times, the author gives a very honest testimony of her experience. I found the book written like a sit-down with a friend who's finally feeling safe to be able to tell the truth of a horrible relationship behind closed doors. Not caring wether they believe you or not, just desperately trying to get the story out for their own sanity. Finally finding their own truth back by explaining the beautiful and nasty things that happened and how.It's an addictive read for the open-minded. Possibly a hard-to-understand for the more narrow minded.If you were in a situation with a narcissist, this book does everything it needs to do in order for you to understand what happened and that these people are in fact out there and you are not alone.The donation mention on the back of the book is a little bit of an overkill for me. I never like to be sold on someones "Charity efforts" But God bless her for doing that. Just wish it wasn't so promoted.All and all, five stars. Would read another book from this author.

L.W. “Lucy: Hawksby provides a compelling, true account of life with a man characterized with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), a rare mental condition. The book is written in diary format from November 2013 when Hawksby first meets the man with whom she eventually falls in love, continues throughout the turbulent relationship, to June 2016 when the relationship comes to a tragic ending. The writing and language are graphic, gritty, and emotional with Hawksby sparing no feelings of her own or for the man she is dating. This is truly a “page turner” for the reader and left me experiencing various emotions of sadness, anger, disgust, and frustration at the ending, one which I will let the reader experience. My only small criticism is that after each episode of the relationship, Hawksby provides educated information about the NPD personality to the reader. However, this information is not referenced in a footnote or bibliography as to its origin and therefore does not lend credibility to the diagnosis. Maybe Hawksby can update the book, citing her sources for this helpful information, to entice the reader to conduct further NPD research. In conclusion, this is a good read if you like tragic diaries. Hawksby also provides solstice at the end of each tumultuous episode with a music choice, for the readers listening pleasure, furthering their experience. I am not sorry I purchased this book and would suggest it to adult readers interested in continued psychological learning.

L.W. Hawksby shares her story of abuse at the hands of narcissists in an honest, no holds bar truth that only a person can who has walked through the fire of loving a man/men with this mental disorder. Although her story may be different from others' experiences, she captures how the narcissist's charm, love bombing, manipulation, mind control, and zest to reel in their target. The explanation of the narcissist's behaviors and the victims behaviors at the end of the chapters are invaluable, as she explains these traits and reactions in easily understood definitions. Lucy shows us how the determination of the narcissist sets out to destroy their targets/victims when we catch on to their evilness and how they trap you to make themselves look like the victim. Hawksby gives us the real truths about how the narcissist has a harem of enablers and flying monkeys participating in the bullying abuse and crazy making chaos. She captures the terror of feeling isolated, ostracized, and trapped emotionally and physically in a heartbreaking relationship with a narc. The author show us how to regain our strength and to reach deep down in our souls to stand up and fight back against the evil of this disorder. She helps us to rise up and take our lives back, to overcome, and to survive! Lucy has helped save my life and to keep me out of jail!Anyone who has or who is still involved in narcissist abuse must read this book for clarity and understanding and how to escape the darkness of this evil condition.Thank you, Lucy, for saving my life and my reputation!!

The author is able to capture the depth of despair and the raw emotion of loving someone who can do nothing other than destroy that person. The cruelty she endured in the depicted relationships is unfathomable both on a personal level but also societally by abandoning Lucy to liars and demons.This heartfelt account of a human life poured out on paper encourages me to be more aware of the women around me. Are they “tearful, drawn, distracted or have signs of being traumatized”? This book also encouraged me to take an inventory of my relationships(s) on page 251.Knowledge and understanding equals wisdom.