The Language of Emotions:What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You: Revised and Updated (2nd Edition)

An amazing book for anyone who wants to understand how to work with their emotions, and possibly thrive more than ever based on this new knowledge. This is something that hardly anybody is taught how to do, anywhere in the world, but it's vital skill for a happy and productive life! I'm still only in the first half of the book, but it's such an interesting read that I often read entire pages more than once just to absorb and remember significant passages with ease. And I'm already seeing an impact as I will sometimes recall something from the book when an emotion arises in my own daily life - I am able to look at it with more understanding and compassion than before, and I now understand what the emption is trying to tell me. This is amazing!!! I will update my review once I am done with the whole book. This is not a book that's meant for everyone, only for those who take responsibility for themselves and are into self development (so don't bother gifting it to someone who has no interest in taking responsibility for themselves. You can spot such people easily - blamers, shamers, manipulative people, bullies etc will never get the idea behind this book). But if you are a person who wants to understand the hidden but simple messages in each of your emotions, and how to effectively work with them so that they can help you navigate life, please do yourself a big favour and buy this book. Keep an open mind, read it slowly (rushing through the pages won't have the desired effect), and consider carefully all that you read - it is the easiest thing in the world to discount new ideas as rubbish, but we sometimes miss out on hidden treasures if we cannot entertain new possibilities. I also recommend checking out Karla McLaren's You tube channel where she has small videos on the same subject - these are a good aide to anyone reading this book, for me it's a further reinforcement of some wonderful ideas. I love her energy and how she puts her ideas forward, both in the book and her videos. In fact, watching the videos made me realise how happy and relaxed Karla seems compared to most people (despite having undergone tremendous trauma as a child), and she attributes this entirely to her understanding of her own deep and intense emotions - once she learnt how to work with them instead of suppressing or hating them, she blossomed into a serene and compassionate human being. I sure would love to be just as happy and relaxed in my own life, so I am excited to read the rest of the book! Honestly wish I had found this years ago, it would have changed my life.

Thanks to the writer, helped me understand the emotions better. This is a wonderful book, you’ll love to read. Friends go for it..

Just about a month ago, I would have laughed it out if someone told me that "Negative emotions"(atleast that's what they are called mostly) have a deeply meaningful, indispensable and ofcourse positive side to it. No more. This is must for every person with emotions (that's pretty much everyone), and Pure gold for all emotional shrines (in regular language, anybody suffering from BAD emotional issues).

Very good book.

good.

It is an awesome book.It changes the way we are handling or understanding emotions today. I am not able to keep the book down as it teaches a lot of stuff which i was really searching in order to build my emotional intelligence. As others have mentioned in the review, it is at times quite repetitive to get to a point, that is one thing which could be at times difficult to read the material, but otherwise the core stuff it tries to bring and the practices it teaches us his really life changing. I would definetely recommend this to everyone who wants to know how, what and why of emotions. Dont worry about the repetitive stuff ,it gets completely forgotten by the content it brings to us

The print is very very small . Very hard to read . Basically for this reason couldn't read it further ,just could complete few pages of book.

The author explains emotions and the role it plays in human life in a simple and beautiful manner. The exercise suggested are straightforward, easy to practice and very helpful

All too often we categorize our emotions into good ones and bad ones. In Karen McLaren's book, the Language of Emotions, And What Your Feelings Are Trying To Tell You, we learn that all emotions are good, and each and every one of them is trying to tell you something. To push down any emotion will only bring it up in ways that can be less than helpful. In the end, our bodies and our psyches will pay the price. In the fascinating book, McLaren goes through each emotion, one at a time, and it's sister emotion, to show us what each emotion is trying to tell us, and what healing that emotion will bring to us if we allow it. I'll show with one emotion, how McLaren goes through each one, delving deeply into each emotion to show us exactly what she means. "Grief--the deep river of the soul Gifts--Complete immersion in the river of all souls The Internal Questions--What must be mourned? What must be released completely? Signs of Obstruction--Unwillingness to accept or honor loss, death or profound transitions. Practice--Stop, drop everything, and ask your internal question. When the river of the soul takes your weight until itself, you can release that which has died into the next world so that you may live more fully in this one." It's so easy to get stuck in grief. Our western society doesn't have wailing and renting of clothes, 3 day funerals, the body in the parlor, as some other cultures do where grief is a full-on contact sport. We keep children away from death, and as McLaren points out, if we don't grieve properly, with enough tears to send our loved one off to the other world, along with rituals that give us closure, we might end up being haunted by our dead. I've read in some books that our dead might not know they're dead if it's sudden, maybe a big production of grief and then closure, can help our dead be on their way. Maybe we wouldn't need a uniquely American show like Ghost Whisperer, if we knew how to show our ghosts that they truly have left us. McLaren also points out that if we don't go through all 3 steps of an emotion, we can become stuck. With grief, we can get stuck and want to relive death over and over again with horror movies, which might explain our fascination with death. And if we don't make room for death in our lives, we can't make room for life. We can't welcome in our children to this life because it's too crowded with our ghosts. Our society certainly doesn't make a show of honoring children when we don't put their welfare, and schooling as the number one things on our national agenda. In fact, we spend more on our national defense than anything else. Is this because we're so afraid to die? If we could know that death is not dying, but a doorway to another world, maybe we could lose our fear, and start taking care of the living amongst us. We would honor our elderly who are soon to make the transition to another world. We wouldn't spend millions keeping bodies alive beyond when it's wise to do so. This is a truly thought-provoking book, and wise beyond its mere words.

This is a true handbook on Emotions' Management and Mastery. A very practical approach based on solid theory!

A valuable insightful manual to understand identify and handle each of your emotions. I would have never imagined the importance of emotions like anger, despair, depression, fear, and many others which I thought were negative, now I understand how they help protect ourselves and provide valuable information to react and relate to others emphatically.

I am loving this book that is beautifully written and amazingly interesting. I've already learned so much about myself and how to deal with my emotional roller coaster. This is a fascinating explanation with a new view about emotions

Had I had this book 25 years ago, my life would have been much more gratifying - I would have been a better mother and wife, but most of all I would have been better to myself. This is a "must read" book for everyone, given that our culture is forcing us to lose our primal language of emotions. The best part of this book is that it's actually a manual. It tells you exactly what questions to ask yourself to get to the bottom of what exactly you're feeling and why, and that, in turn, helps explain to you why you do the things you do. Read it, loved it and now I'll go back and reread it so that I can practice it.