Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships

I'm currently reading this book as part of a marriage class at my church, and it’s been a really eye-opening experience. This book dives deep into the importance of setting healthy boundaries within marriage, not in a way that divides partners but in a way that encourages mutual respect and strengthens the relationship. What I love about this book is that it’s practical. It doesn’t just give abstract advice; it offers real-life examples and actionable steps for handling common marriage challenges. It helped me see that boundaries aren’t about controlling or changing your partner but about understanding your own limits and needs and communicating those clearly and lovingly. For instance, it talks about how to handle situations where one person is more giving than the other, or when different values or expectations lead to frustration. The writing is compassionate and faith-based, so it feels like the authors really understand where couples are coming from and the unique challenges we face. Discussing it in our church group has brought up some really honest conversations, and it's clear that many of us have struggled with setting or respecting boundaries in one way or another. If you're looking to deepen your connection with your spouse and build a healthier, more balanced relationship, this book is well worth the read. It’s great for self-reflection, and even better when you can discuss it with others and learn from their perspectives too. Highly recommend for any couple, whether you’re newlyweds or have been together for years.

My husband and I are reading this together and getting a lot out of it. We’ve never read the original Boundaries book, so I can’t say how similar the content is. We’ve seen ourselves in, um, every chapter. That has made it very relatable. Boundaries is something we need to work on, and we’re finding this book very helpful.

Why is this the best book I've read on relationships? 1. I can see my own past relationship shortcomings as well as my former wife's. This is very humbling. Though I initiated my divorce for valid reasons, I can see more clearly where I failed to take responsibility for improving my marriage. I can also see where I took responsibility for her issues and should have asked her to take responsibility for her own attitudes and emotions. 2. I can see what it takes for a successful marriage. This is very daunting to me. As a divorced man I am very comfortable. Do I really want to love someone so much, as God loves us, that I would love them through every one of their mistakes, including infidelity? I really don't know if I'm ready to do that, which is partially why I choose to remain single. I'm just not sure I can actually live up to that standard of love. 3. This is the most "nutrient-dense" book I've read on relationships. I wish all marriage counselors applied these principles as directly as they are outlined in this book. Frankly we could have gotten to the heart of the issues much more effectively with a lot less frustration by me and my former wife. 4. Unlike marital counseling or therapy, this book gets directly to the issues. If a counselor used these principles they would be much more effective. I can barely put this book down because it resonates as being completely true. I believe this is God's way, as he set the example for good relationships for all of us. I have invested hours reading and taking detailed notes. This book is either going to make me the most prepared man for marriage, or it's going to scare me away from wanting to ever make that commitment again. I really don't know how it's going to go for me, but I am enjoying learning about what a successful marriage requires. This is one of two relationship books that I will give to each of my adult children, who are all unmarried. The other book is "Boundaries" by the same authors. Between these two books I think they could solve a lot of marital problems if the principles are applied by spouses. If you are sincerely interested in having a healthy marriage, either now or in the future, I encourage you to read this book. If both partners follow what's taught in this book, you'll save hundreds of dollars, if not thousands, in counseling.

Great book! I wish every young person was required to read this before dating. Actually saving my marriage.

A Very Useful Book, But You May Still Need a Pro Reviewer: siddheartha from Warren, MI USA This is a very good book about boundaries. Yes, it is steeped in Christianity. If you are a Christian, that is a very big plus and will make this book even more helpful. However, if you are not, you can still get great value from this book. This book will teach, giving examples, about building appropriate boundaries in your marriage. If you are not married you can still prepare. Starting with good, strong boundaries will help you pick a better mate (for you), and make for a stronger marriage, too. If you are in a troubled marriage, it may be difficult to use this book. If the good will in the marriage has headed south, get a marriage counselor who is familiar with the book and willing to help you both build better boundaries. Those with good boundaries are the happiest people. Good luck! Enjoy. Oh, why not 5 stars? It is a well-written book. The examples are mostly useful. And as much as I like the reliance on Christian values, the book leans on them too much. It is a very subjective thing. So I can understand most people give 5 stars.

These are my favorite books for young adult's ministry! I had the dating one when I was 15 and I have read it countless times so decided to get this too. Great condition but there is a sticker on the front that says "$1.50" lol. I don't mind the price it was so worth it. Just maybe remove the sticker next time lol.

Wow, this book. Newly married couple. And this book has saved us from having so many arguments. It has also explained our roles to ourselves and to each other. It is a great book on how to communicate, managing expectations and resolving the worry that we may have inside each of us about our mate and ourselves. A must have! Thank you

These two have been blessed with the gift of counseling and the talent of writing for sure. This book is not about manipulating nor controlling your spouse, this book is to show you how set proper biblical boundaries around your marriage as individuals and as one. In marriage, yes we are one, IN CHRIST. Yes, we are very valuable and equal to Him BUT We never stop being individuals. People with two completely different minds with a different character and personality and with different roles and responsibilities in this life, it is a task to make this work, is time consuming and it takes a lot of effort. Being imperfect individuals seeking perfection, we fall short many times, this book helps you understand and gage to have better and more realistic expectations. Like me building a fence around my property to give me the privacy and benefits of a fence but it doesn’t remove my obligation to care for what is inside the fenced area I.e. the yard, the house, etc. One thing is for sure, you will learn a lot from this book.

This book among others is keeping me focused on my personal growth, assisting me to grow out of fears and habits that I've tolerated for to long

Some stories are related in some situations and some has no application...but its a good read.

Highly Recommend this book. I learned a lot and wish I had read this book at the beginning of my marriage.

Thoroughly enjoyed this book. It has taken me x2 attempts to read but I'm grateful I persisted. Boundaries inside the marriage to deepen the relationship and keep the love thriving. This book and Danny Silk 'Keep Your Love On' are so important in a Christian marriage. May God help is all on this journey called marriage.

This is a very practical book, with helpful advice on managing yourself as an adult and identifying what areas of your life you have control over and responsibility for. By taking ownership of your own emotions, values and talents (for example) you can feel more content and contribute to a healthier marriage as a result. Well worth a read.