PLUME Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts

If you are human who deals with rejections, sadness, guilt., grief, anger, disappointment or any emotion which isn't pleasant, this book is all you need. Guy Winch is a Psychologist, who's Ted Talk Emotional First Aid talk about why we need to learn to apply band aid and learn to heal our Emotional wounds with same care (or more ) as our physical wounds. With soooo many practical examples and suggestions on how to process these emotions and learn to overcome, this book is extremely useful if you are adult enough to know that you the first person who needs to take care of yourself, but don't have exact steps on how to go about it.Even if you know, this book will only add to the toolkit that you have.. Guy Winch's podcast Dear Therapist are more applications of many of the suggestions and tips given. Very informative, useful, easily understandable guide.. Highly recommended.

I heard the author interviewed on a couple of podcasts and found his approach refreshingly direct, particularly when so many authors/books dealing with emotional issues can be frustratingly abstract. His approach is that we should treat emotional hurt the same way we treat physical hurt. If we burn our hand we know to remove it from the heat source, and can assess whether the burn will heal by itself, if it can be treated at home or if medical assistance is required, and what might happen if we don't treat it at all. Unfortunately few of us are equipped with the skills needed to assess our emotional injuries and treat them accordingly. This book attempts to remedy that in a very practical way. Each chapter covers a specific issue (eg. rejection, rumination, loneliness, guilt, failure) and looks at causes, symptoms and recommended treatments depending on the severity of the 'wound', and suggests when we might need to speak to a professional. It's written in a logical, down to earth, sympathetic way, with plenty of examples from his experience as a therapist to remind you that you're not alone in feeling the way you do. Although his approach is simple, that doesn't make it easy - just reading the book won't "fix" anything. The reader still has to be pro-active and actually apply the treatment methods suggested.... and unfortunately that's often the hard part! But this seems like an excellent companion to help you along your journey to recovery.

I recently suffered from a breakup with somebody I had been dating for almost a year. The timing was not great, as it occurred right when my previous job was ending and I was starting the job-searching process. I quickly realized I was spiraling into depressive tendencies (staying in bed most of the day, ruminating about things my partner did and what she might be doing now), and I decided to try to help myself out of it by buying this book. The major premise of the book is that we should treat our emotional wounds like our bodily wounds: allowing sufficient time to let them heal AND, most importantly, taking special precautions to make sure they don't get worse. If the former part of that statement is a bit of a truism, as some of the other reviewers have noted, I have found Winch's suggestions for the latter part to be on the whole very interesting and helpful. So far I have read the three chapters on Rejection, Loss, and Rumination. The tone of the Rejection chapter is markedly different from the others and, in my opinion, not effective – it sounds like he had a buzzfeed editor insert quips at the end of each paragraph, all of which fall flat. Fortunately, this trend does not continue into the other chapters, which are more serious in tone and I think more comforting (I don't really want somebody making sh@tty jokes about my sadness). Some of the suggestions he makes for rumination (use a third-person perspective instead of a first when remembering events) and for loss (to try to ask yourself why events happened instead of just how they happened) are both novel and research-based. So far, I think this book has achieved what it set out to. It won't be winning any awards, but it will help stock your "emotional medicine cabinet," if you don't have one already.

Fue un libro de regalo, por lo que no tengo opinión respecto a su contenido.

I think this book should be in every home just as a first aid kit. It is really eye opening and worth reviewing regularly. It will not only help yourself, but it will also help you to better understand others, therefore improve your interpersonal relationships.

Bereits nach wenigen Seiten wird dem interessierten Laien klar, dass er/sie hier einen kleinen Schatz in den Händen hält. Aussagen, die auf den Punkt kommen und desöfteren Aha-Effekte hervorrufen, Beispiele, die nachvollziehbar sind, und Handlungsanweisungen, die sinnvoll erscheinen und vor allem auch auf den eigenen Alltag übertragbar sind. Dazu ist der Inhalt nach Relevanz geordnet und gleich das erste Kapitel über Zurückweisungen war für meinen konkreten Anlass, dieses Buch zu kaufen, ein Volltreffer. Zudem verzichtet der Author dankenswerterweise darauf, für Kollegen zu schreiben, d.h. wissenschaftliche Hintergründe werden für Laien erklärt und nicht für ein Fachpublikum, und die Sprache ist auch für Nichtmuttersprachler verständlich. Zudem ist das Werk durch seine saubere Strukturierung als Nachschlagewerk geeignet, man muss es nicht in einem durch lesen - was ich zugegebenermaßen trotzdem mache, weil ich es so lesens- und wissenswert finde.