The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living

In reading this book, it does make you think about your options in life. Read it slowly to absorb what is being said. It’s very thought provoking. I would definitely recommend the read.

Loved this book. I have provided a copy for my wife, all my kids and plenty of friends. Was very instrumental in dealing with my PTSD and my substance abuse issues. Gave me direction and purpose in my life.

His Holiness has the amazing ability to say things that are both simple and profound. After listening to the XIV Dalai Lama or reading his words, I often find myself saying, "Why didn't I think of that?" Why not indeed? A previous reviewer states that this is a wonderful book but that it's hard to "get" the idea of being compassionate to ALL beings regardless of their own actions. It IS hard to "get" that. The Dalai Lama has been a Buddhist monk for the last 71 years, and HE works at it every single day. The Buddha himself, after his Enlightenment, didn't say, "Well, since I'm one with all that is I guess I can retire now." Nope. Shakyamuni began teaching. And he kept practicing, whether through sitting meditation or through workaday tasks. His practice matured him. He may have come up with the Four Noble Truths on Day One and he may have taught them throughout his life, but there's a great deal of evolution between those original thoughts and the Parinirvana Sutra uttered on his deathbed. He would have heartily endorsed the Dalai Lama's call to Happiness and accepted Tenzin Gyatso as a worthy Dharma successor. But, I digress. Unlike many of the Dalai Lama's earlier books this one is geared specifically toward and for the general public. Just as you don't have to be Jewish to enjoy Levy's Rye, you don't have to be a Buddhist to appreciate this book. As a matter of fact, although every idea in this book is quintessentally Buddhist, every idea in this book is, more importantly, quintessentially human. The Dalai Lama's basic thesis is that we are all born to be happy. Reading this, I kept being reminded of Jefferson's words, "Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness." It's too bad that our modern culture conflates "Happiness" with "Pleasure" (which is far more fleeting) and that "Pleasure's" main attribute is "Money" and lots of it, or the things that "Money" can buy. Not that "Money" is unimportant, but the idea that "Money can't buy Happiness" is a core idea here, and is proven over and over again. This book and its sequels grew out of a series of personal interviews between the Dalai Lama and noted Psychologist Howard C. Cutler, who has become an important exponent of the Positive Psychology Movement of the last decade. Positive Psychology focuses not on what's wrong with an individual but on what's right and how to reinforce what's right through positive practices---essentially, Cutler's approach amounts to a primer on classical Buddhist Psychology. The Dalai Lama speaks here, but it is Cutler who amplifies and expounds on the Dalai Lama's core ideas in a Western idiom. His Holiness does detail certain meditative practices as well. According to the Dalai Lama (and most Positive Psychologists), Happiness is not the end result of a thought process but is the process itself. Acting kindly, compassionately, mindfully and with awareness result in a person being, in effect, happy, even in the face of the day-to-day toxicity of much of our culture. His Holiness also believes that Happiness is highly contagious, and that it will spread virally if only we maintain our positive practices. Yes, it is hard to remain "happy" in the face of dealing with obnoxious bill collectors or dishonest repairmen, but that is where compassion comes in. Compassion is not a form of blind forgiveness---I don't have to say, "It's okay" to the mugger who's just stolen my wallet---but, rather, it is a form of understanding that bad things do occur, that although they may occur to me, the universe is not personally out to get me, and that the mugger who mugged me, the bill collector who cursed me or the repairman who overcharged me, is acting out of their own unhappiness. I don't have to turn any cheeks or allow it to happen ever again. I don't have to embrace them as misguided souls. I don't have to let it fester and make me sick and angry either. I just have to grasp the idea that the mugger, the bill collector and the repairman are all human, like me, and all subject to the same faults and foibles that I am. Sound tough? It sure is. That's why it's a lifelong practice. Anybody coming here for a bullet-point approach to solving all of life's problems or to be reassured by pop-psychology tripe will be disappointed in this book. This is a substantive popular work that gives back to the reader exactly what the reader puts in.

This was a gift for my son! I hope he reads it and is guided by the wisdom!

I loved this book where the author weaves stories, experiences between Dalai Lama teaching and psychology. There are incidents of narration of Dalai Lama actions on empathy and ability to respond to tough questions with ease of reasoning. If you are a believer in science and question religion or spirituality and want to explore the connection between the two, this book is a treat. It also shares insights on what happiness is, how to experience it and how to live with it. Loved the author narration and bringing facts with great teachings of Dalai lama

First off I will say I am a Christian and I believe in our Lord Jesus Christ, but I wanted to read more about the Dalai Lama and how he sees things that we might miss no matter your religion and I’m glad that I have. I own quite a few of his books now after this one.This book is absolutely fabulous. It’s about finding the joy that you might be overlooking or that is right in front of you and you just don’t see it. It will change the way you think or you look at things as well. You can just feel the joy as you read the book he has such a positive attitude, and it comes through in the words. There is nothing pushy about religion.I’m really glad I took the plunge and started digging in to his books because they’ve always been Something that I have wanted to start reading because we all are different but all the same . I just really liked and loved looking through his eyes in his words. The reason I started to really consider reading his books was because I knew there was joy in them because you can see it in him and plus the last three years have been super hard with breast cancer, stahp, three blood infections, foot surgery from cancer medicine, hurting for five years and finally figuring out I had thoracic outlet syndrome and I had surgery, complex, regional pain syndrome, and cervical dystonia so my body has been through a lot in 3 years of surgeries, medicines, and all kinds of stuff, and eventually it take a toll on my thinking . So I was absolutely delighted to look at life at a different angle than what I was. I think his books are fantastic. Like I said I own several of them now and you don’t have to be a Christian or it be a sin to read his words because he just wants you the reader to be happy and find that happiness and he just shows you. I would buy all of his books and I might have all of them I don’t know, but this is a great buy if you are going through or have been going through some very rough ordeals for a very long time or even if you just need something to help nudge you out of that spot, you’re at to look at things differently, so you can find the happiness in you this book is an absolutely must have. It has changed how I look at things now instead of the demon gloom that I have dealt with for so long and all the pain that goes along with it. Please, if you are dealing with anything by this book give it a try it will help you. Excuse the video I have lots of books and this is not even close to how many I have but I do own seven of his books and they have all been great so far.

Great book that is written in simple terms and is comprehensive. You'll read it more than once.

I appreciated the book’s format—a thoughtful dialogue between the Dalai Lama and psychiatrist Howard Cutler aimed at translating ancient insight into modern life. The premise of “how to be happy” sounds simple, yet the conversation quickly becomes deeper and more nuanced. Through stories and reflection, the book shows how suffering, compassion, and perspective shape our experience far more than circumstances. The Dalai Lama’s guidance is spiritual without drifting into abstraction, while Cutler grounds the ideas with relatable, real-world examples. Their exchanges feel human, even funny at times, which keeps the insights accessible. The book dismantles two persistent myths: that happiness is something life delivers to us, and that peace comes from avoiding discomfort. Instead, it frames happiness as a skill—one built through empathy, resilience, and intentional mental training. If you value books that linger in your mind long after you close them, this one earns the space. It doesn’t promise perfection; it offers a way to live more lightly with imperfection. I’m happier for having read it.

La filosofía budista merece todos mis respetos y en particular la figura del Dalai Lama, después de todo lo que ha pasado, en su proclama de fomentar los estados mentales positivos, como la comprensión, la amabilidad y la compasión, en el camino a una mejor salud psicológica y felicidad. La lectura es sencilla y práctica. El texto ha sido preparado por un psiquiatra norteamericano, a partir de las entrevistas y conversaciones, con el Dalai a lo largo de varios años, por lo que en numerosas ocasiones plantea las formas y puntos de vista occidentales frente al budismo. Desde mi punto de vista una lectura obligada.

lovely book about compassion, patience and tolerance and how to train your mind to become more happy in your life. i think the dalai lama is a beautiful human being and he encourages us to be humane to all beings and creatures. what's not to like? :o)

Surprisingly pragmatic and moving account of interviews with the Dalai Lama by an American Psychiatrist. “Simple” but powerful values of compassion, empathy and tolerance— that I will continue to attempt to weave into my daily thoughts and behaviour. An important book — especially in today’s times where it appears that many people have lost their moral compasses.

Reading it every day can keep calm. It is impressive.

So I bought this book after being it was recommended by a friend of mine. As someone who at the time of purchase had never been introduced to Buddhism I have to say I opened the first pages with a critical mindset as I've never exactly been one to believe or follow anything regarding religious practices or philosophies- that being said I've always had a sense of respect for religion as I see how it can provide positive and strong notions of influence and guidance when people need it to live a satisfied life. (My motivation for purchase in the first place) The first chapter in I realised that this book is special. It's not in anyway preachy or full on (as it's actually co-written by Howard C Cutler) so it's a perfect balance between science, academia and Buddhist philosophy. What can I say about this book? It stimulated a re-shift towards my priorities in my head, what I deemed to be important at that time was in fact the opposite- we strive so much for material objects, self-esteem through social media and other points which in our fast paced society is normative behaviour- but it really does not matter! It helped me realise what is really important, finding happiness in yourself and being satisfied with yourself for who you are and eventually you realise you can live without such things, from relationships all the way to how much money is sitting in your bank account the Dalai Lama really sets it through a good lens to make you realise there is much more to life- or actually, less! What we think we need is far from the truth. All of these notions supported by Howard Cutler and his prestigious academic analysis really makes this a good read. To summarise- this book not only changed the way I think. It actually encouraged me to seek out a monastery in Mcleod Ganj, India(where the Dalai Lama resides) and spend 11 days in a silent retreat. I came back feeling refreshed, renewed and ready to tackle the everyday hurdles of life once again- but this time with a completely different approach and thought process. Would and have recommended to every single person as its applicable to all situations.