--- product_id: 1698422 title: "The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?" price: "47496CFA" currency: XOF in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.sn/products/1698422-the-sacred-search-what-if-its-not-about-who-you store_origin: SN region: Senegal --- # The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why? **Price:** 47496CFA **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why? - **How much does it cost?** 47496CFA with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.sn](https://www.desertcart.sn/products/1698422-the-sacred-search-what-if-its-not-about-who-you) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description What if you stopped looking for a “soul mate” and started looking for a “sole mate”—someone who will live out with you the great purpose of God? What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy? In The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even before you walk down the aisle. As Gary reminds us, a good marriage is not something you find—it’s something you make. Review: the book walked me through like a friendly - A very practical and realistic approach to the discussion of how Christian marriage should be sought after. The book addressed a lot of questions I had and I found the discussion questions at the end of every chapter very helpful and introspective. As someone who is a follower of Christ, single, and willing to honor God in every aspect of life including marriage (if it happens) yet lack a solid guidance, the book walked me through like a friendly, caring father figure I much needed. I personally find Christian marriage and dating quite puzzling as I grew up under parents who had very contrasting view on religion- mom almost a fundamentalistic Christian, dad an atheist. There wasn't much of an order back home and whenever trouble happened it was always mom who always pulled the family together. After I became a Christian, I felt the Holy Spirit convicting me of many things and my brokenness and wounds from my parents' distant marriage was one area God wanted to heal and renew within me. I'm learning to trust God in this and the book served as a great addition to my knowledge of how to prepare for this big covenantal relationship. One of the best things about this book is, the author doesn't shy away from talking about real issues pertaining to this area, such as sex and sexual desires. He addresses real, predictable problems that can easily occur in a relationship, and offers plethora of questions we should consider asking ourselves and our future partners before entering into a sealed deal. Although the book is about Christian dating/marriage, I like the fact that it actually isn't entirely about marriage. The author takes a topic that can easily become all about itself, and does a great job in bringing it back to God and building His kingdom first. A solid book, highly recommended to anyone who is just as lost as me when it comes to honoring God with romantic relationships :) Review: Finally a Honest Book on Christian Dating and Marriage - When I first saw Gary Thomas' Book 'The Sacred Search' I sighed and thought, 'great, another over spiritualized book on dating and marriage--as if there are not enough of them already.' But knowing Thomas wrote a highly recommend book on Marriage (Sacred Marriage) I thought I would give it a try. Thomas captured me with the first chapter and he kept me fully engaged through out the book. What makes Thomas' book stand above the rest is his casual tone and brutal honesty. He is one of the first to present a very honest and clear picture of what dating and marriage entails. He even challenges the reader to think clearly about who they are before giving all of that up for someone else. It is a great book to read while single--so you can develop you thoughts about who you are and what you are honestly and realistically looking for in a mate--so you do not allow your thoughts to be swayed by your current relationship. Yet even if you find yourself in a relationship while reading this book Thomas includes discussion questions at the end of each chapter that would be great to honestly go over and discuss with your potential spouse. Finally Thomas won me over by discussing the ideas: marriage is about relational vision and that vision ought to be to seek first in all things the kingdom of heaven, that 'The One' does not exist, if you are still single and want to be married get off your butt and start dating because your spouse is not going to knock on your door some day and say 'I'm Here!', That just because you love someone does not mean that you should get married to them, and finally he was honest about sexual tension in a dating relationship and even admits that when a couple is about to get married and they are not struggling with sexual temptation that he fears for their marriage. He actually says at this point in the relationship you should have to use all the restraint you have to not have sex. He then concludes it is better to marry than to burn with passion. With these honest reflections and causal tone I cannot help but hold high respect for Thomas and what he accomplishes in this work. DO NOT GET MARRIED BEFORE READING THIS BOOK! ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #207,494 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #742 in Christian Marriage (Books) #1,127 in Love & Romance (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.7 out of 5 stars 3,016 Reviews | ## Images ![The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why? - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51peA3kwEvL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ the book walked me through like a friendly *by S***M on June 30, 2018* A very practical and realistic approach to the discussion of how Christian marriage should be sought after. The book addressed a lot of questions I had and I found the discussion questions at the end of every chapter very helpful and introspective. As someone who is a follower of Christ, single, and willing to honor God in every aspect of life including marriage (if it happens) yet lack a solid guidance, the book walked me through like a friendly, caring father figure I much needed. I personally find Christian marriage and dating quite puzzling as I grew up under parents who had very contrasting view on religion- mom almost a fundamentalistic Christian, dad an atheist. There wasn't much of an order back home and whenever trouble happened it was always mom who always pulled the family together. After I became a Christian, I felt the Holy Spirit convicting me of many things and my brokenness and wounds from my parents' distant marriage was one area God wanted to heal and renew within me. I'm learning to trust God in this and the book served as a great addition to my knowledge of how to prepare for this big covenantal relationship. One of the best things about this book is, the author doesn't shy away from talking about real issues pertaining to this area, such as sex and sexual desires. He addresses real, predictable problems that can easily occur in a relationship, and offers plethora of questions we should consider asking ourselves and our future partners before entering into a sealed deal. Although the book is about Christian dating/marriage, I like the fact that it actually isn't entirely about marriage. The author takes a topic that can easily become all about itself, and does a great job in bringing it back to God and building His kingdom first. A solid book, highly recommended to anyone who is just as lost as me when it comes to honoring God with romantic relationships :) ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Finally a Honest Book on Christian Dating and Marriage *by T***E on October 24, 2013* When I first saw Gary Thomas' Book 'The Sacred Search' I sighed and thought, 'great, another over spiritualized book on dating and marriage--as if there are not enough of them already.' But knowing Thomas wrote a highly recommend book on Marriage (Sacred Marriage) I thought I would give it a try. Thomas captured me with the first chapter and he kept me fully engaged through out the book. What makes Thomas' book stand above the rest is his casual tone and brutal honesty. He is one of the first to present a very honest and clear picture of what dating and marriage entails. He even challenges the reader to think clearly about who they are before giving all of that up for someone else. It is a great book to read while single--so you can develop you thoughts about who you are and what you are honestly and realistically looking for in a mate--so you do not allow your thoughts to be swayed by your current relationship. Yet even if you find yourself in a relationship while reading this book Thomas includes discussion questions at the end of each chapter that would be great to honestly go over and discuss with your potential spouse. Finally Thomas won me over by discussing the ideas: marriage is about relational vision and that vision ought to be to seek first in all things the kingdom of heaven, that 'The One' does not exist, if you are still single and want to be married get off your butt and start dating because your spouse is not going to knock on your door some day and say 'I'm Here!', That just because you love someone does not mean that you should get married to them, and finally he was honest about sexual tension in a dating relationship and even admits that when a couple is about to get married and they are not struggling with sexual temptation that he fears for their marriage. He actually says at this point in the relationship you should have to use all the restraint you have to not have sex. He then concludes it is better to marry than to burn with passion. With these honest reflections and causal tone I cannot help but hold high respect for Thomas and what he accomplishes in this work. DO NOT GET MARRIED BEFORE READING THIS BOOK! ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Biblically-based, right on target *by I***A on May 12, 2017* EXCELLENT resource for singles of any age, whether never-married, widows, widowers or divorced contemplating remarriage!! Gary Thomas' writing style makes this rich book easy to read and he often writes as though speaking to the reader in a friendly, personal way. It is full of very thoughtful and wise reflections and advice based on his years of experience working with people. The book is right on target, in my estimation, about what any Christian should consider when looking for a husband or wife for a solid, committed marriage. It confirmed many of my own thoughts. While Amazon Prime is fast, I downloaded this book and devoured it in a couple days. This should be in every pastor's office or church library. It would be a helpful resource for grief counselors as well, to recommend to those folks who have managed their way through grief after the death of a husband or wife and at the appropriate time feel ready to move on. If I could, I'd give this six stars!! ## Frequently Bought Together - The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why? - Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age - The Sacred Search: What if It’s Not about Who You Marry, but Why? --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.sn/products/1698422-the-sacred-search-what-if-its-not-about-who-you](https://www.desertcart.sn/products/1698422-the-sacred-search-what-if-its-not-about-who-you) --- *Product available on Desertcart Senegal* *Store origin: SN* *Last updated: 2026-07-11*