--- product_id: 125605643 title: "But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath" price: "25016CFA" currency: XOF in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.sn/products/125605643-but-it-s-your-family-cutting-ties-with-toxic-family store_origin: SN region: Senegal --- # But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath **Price:** 25016CFA **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - **How much does it cost?** 25016CFA with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.sn](https://www.desertcart.sn/products/125605643-but-it-s-your-family-cutting-ties-with-toxic-family) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description A psychologist offers a roadmap for those looking to break free of toxic family relationships and thrive in the aftermath. Toxic family abuse is always two-fold. The first layer of abuse is the original poor treatment by toxic family members, and the second is someone’s denial of the ways in which abusers treat and harm them. Loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with them, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. A significant part of healing comes with accepting that there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and function best. But It’s Your Family is a remarkable account of what it means to cut ties to toxic family abuse and thrive in the aftermath. Inside, Dr. Sherrie Campbell clarifies: How parents, adult children, siblings, grandparents, and in-laws can be toxic The difference between flawed and toxic family members Explaining the cutting of ties to children and others who may not understand Spiritual and religious views on forgiveness The definition of cutting ties and what No Contact actually means When readers are able to bring closure to those toxic relationships, they give themselves the space to love those family members from a distance, as fellow human beings, with the knowledge that it is unwise to remain connected. Readers learn how to love themselves in the process and fundamentally change their lives for the better! Review: Incredible book for anyone waking up to the reality that they might have a toxic family - If you're already well into your toxic-family journey, you probably won't find this book as eye-opening as I did. But it was the first full book I read on this topic and it was the first time I felt seen. Not long after reading it, I sought out Dr. Campbell and began seeing her as a client—I say that not solely in full disclosure for this review, but also to note that I have what might be a unique perspective in understanding what she writes and what she says. First off, I am not religious. There is a section called "What About God?" that I skipped without even thinking twice about. It's 10 pages, and if the Christian angle is helpful for you, it's there. As for the remaining chapters, I did not pick up any religious undertones. (As a half-Jewish kid raised in the Bible Belt, believe me, I'm pretty sensitive to that type of thing...) Also, there are several personal stories in this book. Those stories were helpful for me because they served as real-life examples of this type of toxic behavior playing out on a varied spectrum. Each time, the stories reminded me: Yes, this is real; yes, people act like this; no it's not in your head. It made me feel less of that "I must be misreading it" feeling that many of us have in the initial stages of discovering toxic family patterns. Because that's what this exploration is about: patterns. This book helped me realize I was trying to navigate persistent patterns vs. the occasional/excusable one-off. I found myself wanting to highlight tons of parts of this book, but I'll share the sections I found particularly helpful on first read. If these types of insights feel remedial for you, you'll probably want to wait for if Dr. Campbell writes a follow-up book with deeper dives into strategies, research, etc. because this is not that. As for strategies, there is a chapter devoted to no-contact. You might be interested to know that one of the first things Dr. Campbell said to me when I spoke with her was this: "No-contact is not the 'goal.' If we get there, we get there, but I want you to know I'm not advocating for that. I'm here to support you in what works best for you." That was a weight lifted, because I wasn't ready to commit to any certainties yet. I was still exploring, still trying to understand the family dynamic I was in. If you're in a similar "early" spot in figuring things out, this is a great book that clearly outlines healthy vs. unhealthy behaviors, toxicity within families and the roles everyone can take on (ie, scapegoat, golden child). Overall, I highly recommend "But It's Your Family..." as a first step in exploring the dynamics of toxic families! Review: Very validating - It is only in recent months that I truly woke up to how toxic my father and brother are. In the wake of the sudden loss of my dear wife of 23 years who was also my business partner of 20 years in August of 2017, I was perplexed by their lack of empathy, their cruel comments and their indifference and cold detached criticism of my very normal difficulty in adjusting to this profound loss. Their apathy regarding my engagement to the new love of my life whom I started dating just a little over 2 years after my loss became the final straw. I did some soul searching and reflection and started to see that this was all very predictable. There really never had been an emotional connection or healthy support from either one of them. I went NO CONTACT just over 4 months ago - just a few short weeks after coming out of denial and educating myself through YouTube channels. This book really validated my experience especially through the description of the way such family dynamics operate and play out. It was very insightful and it seemed like the right time to read it. It helped solidify my strength and helped make me even more resolute in my decision to cut them out of my life, reminded me that I'm not alone in my experience, and made me feel like I am just about ready to let go of the need to watch the YouTube videos. I feel like I have enough understanding and support to go forward with little more than a monthly session with my counselor. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has the misfortune of having toxic family members and hope, for the sake of readers who haven't made the difficult decision to go No Contact that it will help you make that decision if it proves necessary. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #32,615 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #36 in Dysfunctional Families (Books) #499 in Personal Transformation Self-Help #509 in Psychology & Counseling | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 1,803 Reviews | ## Images ![But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/619VdM0d3CL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Incredible book for anyone waking up to the reality that they might have a toxic family *by L***Y on February 10, 2023* If you're already well into your toxic-family journey, you probably won't find this book as eye-opening as I did. But it was the first full book I read on this topic and it was the first time I felt seen. Not long after reading it, I sought out Dr. Campbell and began seeing her as a client—I say that not solely in full disclosure for this review, but also to note that I have what might be a unique perspective in understanding what she writes and what she says. First off, I am not religious. There is a section called "What About God?" that I skipped without even thinking twice about. It's 10 pages, and if the Christian angle is helpful for you, it's there. As for the remaining chapters, I did not pick up any religious undertones. (As a half-Jewish kid raised in the Bible Belt, believe me, I'm pretty sensitive to that type of thing...) Also, there are several personal stories in this book. Those stories were helpful for me because they served as real-life examples of this type of toxic behavior playing out on a varied spectrum. Each time, the stories reminded me: Yes, this is real; yes, people act like this; no it's not in your head. It made me feel less of that "I must be misreading it" feeling that many of us have in the initial stages of discovering toxic family patterns. Because that's what this exploration is about: patterns. This book helped me realize I was trying to navigate persistent patterns vs. the occasional/excusable one-off. I found myself wanting to highlight tons of parts of this book, but I'll share the sections I found particularly helpful on first read. If these types of insights feel remedial for you, you'll probably want to wait for if Dr. Campbell writes a follow-up book with deeper dives into strategies, research, etc. because this is not that. As for strategies, there is a chapter devoted to no-contact. You might be interested to know that one of the first things Dr. Campbell said to me when I spoke with her was this: "No-contact is not the 'goal.' If we get there, we get there, but I want you to know I'm not advocating for that. I'm here to support you in what works best for you." That was a weight lifted, because I wasn't ready to commit to any certainties yet. I was still exploring, still trying to understand the family dynamic I was in. If you're in a similar "early" spot in figuring things out, this is a great book that clearly outlines healthy vs. unhealthy behaviors, toxicity within families and the roles everyone can take on (ie, scapegoat, golden child). Overall, I highly recommend "But It's Your Family..." as a first step in exploring the dynamics of toxic families! ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Very validating *by S***N on August 4, 2020* It is only in recent months that I truly woke up to how toxic my father and brother are. In the wake of the sudden loss of my dear wife of 23 years who was also my business partner of 20 years in August of 2017, I was perplexed by their lack of empathy, their cruel comments and their indifference and cold detached criticism of my very normal difficulty in adjusting to this profound loss. Their apathy regarding my engagement to the new love of my life whom I started dating just a little over 2 years after my loss became the final straw. I did some soul searching and reflection and started to see that this was all very predictable. There really never had been an emotional connection or healthy support from either one of them. I went NO CONTACT just over 4 months ago - just a few short weeks after coming out of denial and educating myself through YouTube channels. This book really validated my experience especially through the description of the way such family dynamics operate and play out. It was very insightful and it seemed like the right time to read it. It helped solidify my strength and helped make me even more resolute in my decision to cut them out of my life, reminded me that I'm not alone in my experience, and made me feel like I am just about ready to let go of the need to watch the YouTube videos. I feel like I have enough understanding and support to go forward with little more than a monthly session with my counselor. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has the misfortune of having toxic family members and hope, for the sake of readers who haven't made the difficult decision to go No Contact that it will help you make that decision if it proves necessary. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Walking through difficult decisions with understanding *by A***R on October 18, 2025* This book gave me additional understanding on how it is okay to do the most difficult thing a mother or daughter has to do to protect my own emotional sanity. It is written with the depth and understanding of someone who has “walked through the shadow” of a relationship that has to end. Thankfully, the understanding that it is a beginning, not an end, is extremely valuable. 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