The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts Paperback – 1 Jan. 2010

Wow! I read this little marvel with great interest and found it fascinating. Quite simply Gary explains that we all have primary and secondary languages of love. We show our love for people in many ways, but we each have a language of love which is demonstrated more frequently than others. More often than not, the language of love we display the most, is also the one which makes us feel loved and secure when we are in receipt of it. In order to keep a loving relationship alive after the honeymoon period subsides, we need to match our partner's primary and secondary languages. We each have a 'love tank' which is empty when relationships fail - we don't feel loved. In order to fill it again, our partner needs to display our language of love to us, and ensure they are consistently doing so.The five languages of love are: Words of affirmation (expressing love verbally, giving praise, complimenting, etc.), receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service (doing things to please), physical touch (whether it be sex or just hugs, cuddles, a reassuring touch of the arm, etc.).Gary uses case studies from his long career in marriage counselling to evidence how effective this method of staying together and loving forever actually is. It is reassuring to see that even relationships which would otherwise be considered not worth pursuing and past the point of return, can effectively be rescued and restored to a greater and more rewarding level of love than you could ever imagine.I have learnt what my primary and secondary languages of love are and have also figured out my partner's. It has really opened my eyes. There is a great little on line interactive tool on the 5 Languages website which is fun to use and helps you to figure out which of the five languages of love are your top two. It confirmed I had assessed myself correctly.I'd recommend this book wholeheartedly. If you are about to give up on someone, don't! Certainly not before you have read this little book and put its simple instructions in to practice.

Very powerful stuff. Once you've read this, it's a lot easier to understand why some kids and parents feel that the other doesn't really love them. It also helps when you're scratching your head about what to do for that loved one.There are basic qualities to each of the love languages. These are:1) Words of affirmation2) Acts of service3) Quality time4) Gifts5) TouchInterestingly, as we grow up, sometimes we are given the impression that some of these are not acts of affection, but selfish. If you are not a huggy or kissy type, someone who needs to be held may seem too clingy, and it's easy to feel that someone who always wants gifts is greedy. But if you read this book, you can see how those people feel without putting negative labels on them, or on any of these types.I would encourage anyone to read this book. It will give new insight on your family, friends, and every relationship you have. Please read it!

An unusualy good book far overreaching my expectations. It is full of practical usefulness, nothing odd, nothing weird and talks about Touch in a very useful way without too much of the overdone hyperfocussing around sex we often see in some relationship self help books. It is not a sex therapy book. A real common sense book , wriitten by an American but very accessibkle to this unconstructed Englishman and plainly punches across cultural boundaries and speaks to orfdinary thoughtful people.It feels to me that it is helping already and will continue to do so across all relationships and especially in a couple.

If you never read another book, you have to read this one. I am not a fan of reading but I am so glad I opened this book. It has totally changed the way I view my marriage and all other relationships. Basically, unless you live on a desert island, you are going to receive significant help and revelation from this book.And while virtually everyone you meet has a book they think you should read or a magic pill they think you should try - this author explains things that are so simple and yet without our understanding of them our lives are so incredibly complicated and we so often are offended or hurt by others.You need to know what these 5 love languages are and you need to understand what it looks like to act on them or understand other human beings. And while this focuses on marriage, I'd recommend any human, to read it. The cross over is huge.

This is a good, easy read with loads of examples. His basic idea is that we receive and offer love in 5 different ways, so that two people can be in a relationship, both be offering love in the way that they want to be loved, and neither is feeling loved. By learning our own love languages, and those of our partner, children or friends, we can improve our relationships. The basic ideas have proved very helpful both in my own life and also as a therapist helping my clients. Of course it is not quite that simple. Some people have real problems with the idea that they are lovable, and have problems receiving and offering love. But for many people who do not have that issue that ideas can be put into practise and can help improve relationships.

This book is not only great for romantic relationships, but any connections you have with other people.It really shows different perspectives of other people. That what one person does to show they care about another, isn't necessarily the way that person will receive it.By understanding the simple message from this book, it can really change the relationships in your life and potentially save a lot of bad feeling and arguments.I have lent it to a couple of friends when they each went through difficult times and they both raved about it and it's benefits.Give it a go!!